Nov 23, 2022
Have you ever noticed that when you start seeking external
validation you become dependent on it? And how should you approach
situations where you’re on the receiving end of not-so-nice
behavior or thoughts?
In this episode of Inner Archeology, Sarah and Emily
talk about the repercussions of dealing with hardship, the role of
empathy when dealing with people who experience something you have
experienced, and who you should actually seek validation from.
Key Points In Episode:
- Today's conversation piggybacks on what Sarah and Emily talked
about in the last episode: generational differences when it comes
- Have you ever noticed how, when noticing someone parenting
differently than you, certain subconscious thoughts are
- When that happens, you start evaluating your own childhood and
sometimes this helps you realize that what you experienced wasn’t
OK. Sometimes you feel ready to look into it, while sometimes you
don’t. That’s OK, don’t be too hard on yourself!
- Emily shares that, when it comes to experiencing pain and
trauma, people tend to fall into one of two camps: those who
survived and who are maybe better because of it, and those who went
through something painful and they don’t want you to experience the
- Sarah sees a third group: people who went through trauma and
who stay in touch with the empathy toward the person they used to
be when they experienced hardship.
- Let’s be honest: we all have had situations where something
arises and our gut reaction isn’t the nicest. Don’t worry, it
happens. Sarah suggests thinking about how you’d like to show up in
the world and acting accordingly. #EmbraceEmpathy
- Has it ever happened to you to have felt resentment toward
someone who has got it “easier” than you? Think about your children
having access to pretty much anything but yet complain about things
you, as a child, would have only dreamed of having…
- Sarah and Emily go over how Emily dealt with things when she
was on the receiving end of Sarah lacking empathy, as well as how
to deal with similar situations.
- When you’re seeking external validation for something that
would really need your internal validation you become dependent on
constant reassurance. Have trust in yourself, you’ve got this! Most
times, your own – internal – validation is all you need.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Inner Archeology Email
Sarah Turner on Instagram
Emily Pennystone on Instagram
@Inner.Archeology on Instagram
InnerArcheology.tv (video version)
Inner Archeology on YouTube
Previous episode - Generational